What is a consensus reality?

The label consensus reality is mostly used in spiritual and non-physical materials and on forums but we can see it in other forms in human life. But what is the meaning of this label and why it is important for Us? I will try to explain it’s usage and the meaning behind the words. One thing is sure, where the masses are creating their own place and reality is what we call like that. Here on Earth we create just anything over “time” and it is very real: consensus reality is like in what the crowd is believing in, giving their power like governments, buildings, societies, anything group construct like.
In the non-physical (NP), these structures are all over the place because “people” are still doing it. Structure, belief systems, heavens and hells, huge cities – I was in many many – just anything which more than one mind can create.

It means something which we all did or do

In a consensus reality like Earth here and now or like the Afterlife (Focus 3 and Belief System Territories), we build houses, cities, make materials, everyday stuffs, anything which is created by the actual habitant, mentioned in the first paragraph. The funny issue is that what most people did here in this world will continue doing in the non-physical too because they don’t know anything other than their illusional material post-world and life. It is pretty sad. But amazing at the same time how creative we can be.

In Focus 3 (see the Focus model) there are Belief System Territories, which are places resonating with your beliefs and fears/likes, and there are “upper” branches where people are living their life as they are the category of “dead and proud”. The second category knows it for sure that they are in a thought responsive, limitless world but somehow try to live a seemingly physical life further because they like it really and maybe plan another physical life in another form. The lower one is the worst place. Of course there are zillion places here and there and one physical life of projecting and seeing them is not even enough to explore just a tiny fraction (if it is really endless).

Is the created consensus reality structure stays solid?

It is a nice question which maybe pop up in people’s mind, how solid is a given reality especially if for example all of the inhabitants decided to stop giving mind power to stay there and leave? Well according to the non-physical mechanics, the whole place with structures will stay as it was but will decay in energy after a long while and over huge timespan (with a physical viewpoint) – it also depends on how stable the given reality level is. Ok there is no time in the NP but still the given energy there is holding the place in one piece. If some post-humans later would venture there physically as projecting, there would be still those structures but we won’t have any guess for how long did that place exist already, mostly because time is not existing in the NP.

Meanwhile in the physical world if we stop believing everything we did, we stop living on Earth or we just blown ourselves away and Earth would be unoccupied by humanity, it would still exist because “lower” intelligence life forms would still continue living here as a complex ecosystem and nature would take over the power. But because here and now we are the highest conscious intelligence, maybe this who planet would cease to exist.

Remember and many sources are reinforcing it, this physical Universe is an illusion and physical objects are all existing because we created them with our thoughts. Seems so real and solid and meanwhile atoms and molecules are existing as mostly large empty spaces.
Objects can appear from nowhere too with various methods or occurences like what I found out with strong emotions (many many accounts from people’s experiences), this alone proves that this world is not as solid as our brains were washed from birth. Well successful projectors into the non-physical or RTZ can prove it very fast.

A consensus reality is mostly about intercorporation between spirits in a temporary physical body (or without physical vehicle), experiencing individualism and separation. Not all the humans need to be together, some can be alone. Nobody forces you to be in groups or anything, people are doing it from their own decision and fears of being alone. That is how group constructs are forming and stay stable. It is for example like: governments, nations, religions, lottery, the color blue, the exact same tree at the exact same place, the value of money or gold, anything. It is only stable until the supplying force stops giving it stable energy. It is all about repeated thought and everything else like emotions, beliefs etc are firing it further.

What if I stop giving power to these group constructs?

They will still exist and be seemingly real because all the other people are still believing in them. If you stop following a group, it will be only real for those who are following them. It still exists and you can join but now you are living in another reality which doesn’t allows this post group into your life if you don’t want to. Decisions… If you don’t want something in your life, you need effort and mindset to change it and stop following it.

Aging is one of my favourite examples here. I’m aging pretty slow and when I met new people they had no idea that I’m much older in age according to their tips – around 10 years of difference lol. Some people don’t give a shit about aging and this way their whole physical body is not effected by their thoughts so much as somebody who is 70 and (sorry) looks like crap. I know one friend who is over 71 and still didn’t age so much over the last 15-20 years. Every belief changes the reality over time and with repeated thoughts from inside to the outside. Many people cause themselves cancer. This reality game is about how you are dealing the consequences of your thoughts. Many people you see work like hell until pension and they are already in the knowing that their life is mostly over (that is what the society attaches, you are no longer “useful”), they are aged like hell because that is what they saw from others too. This is just one thing from the many to see how it works. If you don’t believe that you will be “that” old in that age, you maybe won’t and forget genetics.

Group constructs are very real and are all over around us. They are just as strong as many people are creating and solidifying it.

Why do people suffer? Why they just don’t stop?

Well we always see people doing horrible things to themselves or suffer. They may only suffer in their own misery, blaming themselves or others, being sick, mentally ill, physically ill and having various diseases. Why the hack are they doing this to themselves?

Suffering is coming from an inner mental problem

There are various types of problems and different steps which people can consciously or unconsciously cause problems to themselves in the long run, causing different illnesses and diseases. Cancer and other deadly stuffs are the last steps in this or rather the worst ones.

What mental manifestations are doing is blocking out the energy flow in the body, which mystics call chakras. Our body is supplied with a non-physical energy link unseen, which keeps our body alive. If there are energy blockages, it can cause trouble and degeneration in both the energy body and physical ones. Remember, it takes time, according to the deepness and strongness of thoughts and beliefs with added emotions.

What people do is they have a starting point of mental problem, coming from their own non-physical mind, which is them in a restricted perspective (meaning our human mind is restricted). Now what we are concentrating on or giving enough energy, will become our reality, but with time delay. In the non-physical if we would do this, it would be a serious problem but here in 3D physical world there is a “time” delay to see how our thoughts and beliefs are forming slowly our reality from deep inside, this way creating manifestations in body. It is widely proven, people are causing physical problems to themselves!

Blaming and not accepting any responsibility

What the vast majority does is they are lacking of deeper understanding in just ANYTHING! Yes, the most just don’t know anything at all, about how life works out on another level of multidimensional existence, we are still in the dark ages (and not because the Sun was not shining) and having what other’s were told to us from birth. People are not just having no idea that they are consciously destroying their body, but sucking out other close people’s life energy and life positiveness at the same time. If they are alone, they just never check their thoughts.
People are just not willing to accept what they think and check it, ever!

They are blaming certain safe foods (even sugar lol), people, forces, anything OUTSIDE them, instead of looking inside and see what their thoughts are doing externally.

We could ask, how is this that the most are just not being aware of what they are doing to themselves and their environment? Well it is interesting, we could say that people are not being conscious but the fact is that they are denying their own thoughts and blaming the outside forces . it is much much easier of balming anything outside us. People are relatively NOT accepting the CONSEQUENCES about their own thoughts and actions ever. This is horrible, isn’t it? I noticed this in my life always, looking at people, their behavour, their destroying attitude.

What about the vast majority in self-realization?

So the basic thing is this: we are constantly developing in many worlds simultaneously. Everybody has a much bigger version of self in the Wider Reality, who sends probes like You and Me as individuated characters, learn and grow in any worlds. There is no beginning and no end, only development, growing and being more compatible with love. The most are underdeveloped spirits and that is what I noticed and those who are constantly travelling to the non-physical with various mind-tools to have insights are also saw this fact.

One reason from the many, being here for the most is this: you are placed down in a slowed down environment with the illusion of “time” thing to see how your decisions and thoughts are wroking out. Some are having primary missions but in my opinion the most have to just learn and grow. Do you learn to control your thoughts and emotions, do you accept responsibility after what you are thinking and doing? While here we are in a big eternal “now”, the here and now, in the wider reality people with this destroying attitude could cause trouble instantly because thought equals instant action. All their fears and stray thoughts are becoming real in front of them.

Self-realization is not an issue for the most. We need to accept this, everybody is learning and developing in their own speed and this life is just one of the endless ones – we can’t label others in the end for what they are. Forget reincarnation, everybody has parallel versions of him/herself in other worlds simultaneously right now, so sequential time thinking is the worst thing to accept as there is no time and brainwashing is everywhere about this issue globally.

What misery does to yourself

If people don’t stop their own misery generally, it will maybe in weeks but maybe in decades, slowly destory your health – and maybe other’s – it will hurt your body and mind and will just break down around pension or earlier. You don’t need to feel yourself physically old because other’s are looking like that.

Many times we just can’t help it but it doesn’t say that we can’t change our thinking the opposite way and get out from the crap. It is not about forcing a positive vision, to live it up. No, it is about accepting our thoughts, monitoring them and changing them. But for first understanding WHY are we thinking what we are thinking? Or anybody around us.

Mental problems are causing every illnesses (everything comes from the NP to here in order, inside to outside) and the human physical body should never – in the right circumstances – would be in any diseases or illnesses. But people don’t care. We can’t just help anybody. We can only help ourselves. If we radiate out our true self, who is not thinking always from egoism and try to give helping hands, it’s the best but remember we CAN’T change people, They need to change. If they don’t want to, they won’t stop this after departuring back to the “Afterlife”. They will need “time” to adjust back and shake off beliefs and change the mindset.

I guess we all met people in our lives with this attitude. Some of them are accepting what they did and they continue to do the exact same thing further. I can only say, they deserve suffering, we can’t help them. But on the other hand it is all about life experiences here and everybody does his/her own job. That is why we can’t tell other’s how to live. They know it only (ok I admit, they don’t lol). If they don’t then it is up to each individual to live however they would like to and the Wider Reality won’t force you to stop, only if your attitude goes against what you planned to accomplish here and now and you are just wasting your own time.

Something I also noticed is that if people are continuing – after they asked ME to help! – their own misery, that is for a reason. Maybe that was what they wanted to experience. Look at those who are stucked in bad relationships, bad life circumstances. “Option A” – they chose it in a wider perspective, or “option B” – they are too weak to change, this way they will continue to hurt themselves until somebody helps.

So this is like watching Television, listening to brainwashing news where people are dieing in bad situations, suffering or just watching horror movies – people enjoy being in fear. That is ridiculous. Nobody decides to do it, only them. Did you ever wonder why fear industry so popular in any category, like XXX? There is a huge demand for it!

One big issue is still there. Self-awareness is pretty low in the most. My type clearly can monitor his thoughts, being aware many things at the same time, being analytical but I’m on a different level. Everybody is on his/her own. But low self-awareness is causing the most trouble. We can’t help it, it is developing over time and over lifetimes. An amoebae certainly won’t develop intelligence suddenly to build a spaceship, but evolving further like simple lifeforms into more complex ones – we are all doing it or were on the same level before already.

Eventually everybody moves on in their own speed and life is just a game, we tend to take it too seriously and many times it hurts but this is human experience in a consensus reality. Do your best to grow and enjoy yourself!

Tragedies and problems – dealing and benefiting from them

Tragedies and problems are finding us time to time and people basically have no idea what can somebody benefit from them? Regular people only seeing the personal loss or anything which is casued by some kind of bad event or maybe a car accident, a death of a loved one, or just a really bad grade in school etc. But smaller tragedies can happen too.

Over my researches I found an interesting viewpoint about how to deal with personal tragedies and how can we benefit from those experiences. It seems very very simple from the subjective non-physical side, which includes a basic thing – our personal spiritual development in this aspect. Of course it is harder than said but it worths the try. Keep balance always in your decisions. And remember, our life is only a facade of a bigger play theme – each individual is stepping in their own path with their choices.

Ok, here you go: the only solution is -how you are dealing with tragedies, problems and many negative life experiences. How you deal with it, that’s all, how you make a solution, how you benefit from it, even if it is a huge tragedy, how you make a smart reaction which will benefit your inner growth in a positive way.
Why? Well we are on a training gound where we are learning constantly and developing – I admit it seem like the most are not even developing anywhere as billions are sleepwalking and indoctrinated but everybody does their job in physical life to slowly or faster but gain knowledge and have life experiences.

To get it short, dealing is one thing but dealing on a way that you are crashing yourself down in a personal loop of negativism and tragedy is not a good idea. The problem solving here means that you let go of bad things in your life, let go the negativity, bad people and bad relationships. Let go and close down those episodes in your life. This way you will only live in the famous present moment and don’t give away any energy towards a past which you can’t change (only your thinking) and also stop worrying on the future which is probable and you will only cause trouble of your thinking. Worry doesn’t solve anything, right?

Even if a relative died or somebody had broken up a connection with us, maybe our car crashed, it is sad and could make people broken in spirit. Don’t let it smash you down. Life is going forward even if people tend to cling on a moment which causing them degrade over years and decades for no reason. We need to let go those bad events in our life, acknowledge them as they happened, we can’t change them, look into the present moment and try to be yourself. You are unique and this way nobody can of course tell you how to live and what to like/dislike, which this society also forgot.

Benefiting: we can gain knowledge from anything, it is only a matter of perception on every sides. You may ask, ok how a handicapped somebody could deal with or benefit from his/her position in a wheelchair for example. How can his/her mother/father/any relative who takes care of him/her benefit and grow from this situation. The only thing here is the viewpoint, how we deal with it, how we accept the situation and do our best. The handicapped person is in his/her little Universe and dealing with his/her bad situation as best as he/she can and when his/her life is finished for this physical life time, this knowledge will be added to the non-physical, to share this circumstance with others. Those who were dealing with him/her, they will also grow from their perspective and learn some understanding of these situations which they – in normal life where people have perfect health condition – may not encounter with such a “trap” for their loved ones. It may be for a reason. Look at the non-physical side: entities (ok we can call them “people”) are constantly gaining knowledge from those who were brave enough to jump in a physical life and deal with the consequences of their choices. Most people won’t ever accept the consequences of their stupid behavour and we all know such people.

Tragedy is only existing in a dualistic world like our physical one here and now and we tend to get it very seriously. But on the other hand/side, we are gaining deeper understanding of these events in our life, which we may not really aware right now or it will be obvious after some years/decades. It is like when spiritual people are spreading that there is no right or wrong. I agree on this but because everything is just experience in a continuous chain of events for consciousness (You, Me, everybody) and we are our source consciousness’ focuses, using a human body right now.
Tragedies are always look like that because our society has categories and attached meaning for just everything. We grew up surely knowing what is what but they are unnecessary limits.

Dealing with problems are like keeping balance, mentioned above. We tend to just make decisions on our feelings but that is the worst thing to do. Thoughts are generating feelings, so we need to check our thoughts first and track back their causes. If we tend to practice mindful reactions, we can surely benefit from our bigger life events in any way, not just crashing off in misery.
Always take into consideration: why that event happened to You? How you will solve this problem or loss and get over to look ahead and stay yourself?

I hope I could help.

Why the Outer World is like that? Greed is everywhere and personal truths are flying…

I was always interested in observing how people behave and see what are they doing to each other from greed and fear, why are they what they are, these things made me think about the causes and whys for decades, from my early childhood until later I understood with external help and researches, listening passively to those who know something, like the biggest knowns like Tom Campbell, R. Monroe, William Buhlman and many more in this circle like non-physical explorers. This alone doesn’t mean that they were the only source, of course not, the source is endless for everybody to make researches, they are only relevant in this context.

When you try to get answers in the external world, through the internet, talking and interacting with people, reading books, doing no matter what to search for truths and answers, you will surely blocked with lies and theories which you will:

1: block yourself and/or start to believe in them for a long time, thinking they are right
2: have hard time to understand what is wrong with those ideas – you will soon realize the “wrongness” comes from your deeper understanding that every sources are just not right in any ways and further research is needed maybe for years

Now, look at the deeper level, about people, just everybody. Why does this world out there look like that? Forces and bad things happening always through human history, there is something always which makes people sad, mad and feel insecure. Money is dictating and people are suffering. Why?
Let’s say you start to search for the truth but maybe after years later (not everybody, be cautious, in my opinion not everybody is capable of figuring out their own truth vs the multiversal truth, because they are self-limited and misusing their intellect the worst way) you will sum your findings up and realize that something is always wrong. People are saying their own self-fulfilling prophecies, telling their truth (which seems a total lie to you), try to sell you useless informations (via books, any source) and you are feeling like going in a squirrel wheel always, not figuring out anything. Those sources may help people with minimally good intentions, I admit it. And we need to start somewhere.

The search ranges from conspiracy theories to the wildest theories about Extraterrestial races and dark governments behind the scenes. Just leave them alone, that is not your job to know those and you won’t figure out even a thing – they could be partly true but who cares, do you want to be insane about the situation or not enough useful informations? Let those brainless idiots say their theories and masses to believe it.
So you continue and realize soon that comeon, this whole stuff maybe explains our reality and people’s nature, but something is missing always.

Here comes the next stage. I admit that as many people are out there, methods and tools are varied highly, this is just an example.
So now you chose spiritual path and learn meditate, listen to various assholes (sorry, they are), buy books, follow them (like there are not enough useless brainwashing religion in the world already) and this goes on maybe for month, years. You think you got it, you need to levitate into the ether to get “enlightened”.

Only a few – mentioned above – will eventually figure out what’s what. It is hard, I admit, needs dedication and willpower and not suited to everybody. So why do people act, behave and do what they do – no matter it is money power, lieing, being mainstream guys – because they are that person. It is all about the being level. Not that physical character here and now, but that certain level of development in their soul.

Spiritual development is not about doing nothing and acting like a brainwashed holy somebody, chanting all day for fooling yourself. It is about understanding what consciousness is and developing in that direction, understanding the Wider Reality and what are you deeply. It varies from person to person.

The Being level

No not some kind of non-physical thing for first. Being means, what a certain human thinks of about anything, the thinking, the intellectual measurement, no that is EGO. We need it, but when people (just all) using this to act in the world, here is the end result, today’s world. People want power, greedy like hell, so much money and factory empire to rob you what they don’t know what to do with it, governments which are not doing any good at all… We are all doing this with each other, a pointless thing. There is the main core (people) who are in the high rises, they won’t develop in spirit in any direction, but the poorer self-made types are trying to copy their ideas and catch their share… why? Because this world is about money. Their beliefs are about if you don’t grab your share, you are a loser, or can’t be HAPPY. Materialism everywhere. People are underdeveloped in being level. And certainly trends are formed, follow it or you will be left out. Nothing new under the Sun.

Being level now means that you are capable of certain things, such as changing your reality, your health condition, your THINKING, but what the most are doing, they are sheep and following the few from fear and greed. Copying them, not even developing anywhere and this world is fucked up because of US. People don’t want to and don’t change ever, NOT even accept the consequencies about their acts and thoughts. They accept the lies, the false reality, the limits which are only in their minds and fueling further this insane hell for many. No suprise, if the most have no idea about how their world is really working begind the phyical scene and with zero knowledge what is the most important, than they will be dumb and believe always instead of knowing.

The big thinkers, speakers and followers

I will just make examples from these recent decades only.

People – the most – are always capable of being fooled. It is their development stage, no problem with it. They are what they are. They are weak and try to believe in others, a religion, a theory, anything, this way they are giving away their power. No surprise how for example governments are formed, they are SYMBOLS and manifestations of people giving away their power! They are not doing anything useful, lieing, gathering big money.
This world is what it is (not the planet, the society globally) because the vast majority is still behaving like anybody else. Everybody’s fear is in being level, they are limited because they let it be, they are dumb because they have no idea that this reality is just a training ground and we are coming from the non-physical, they try to grab their share fearing death and be a slave in a job until their health degrades and they are dead literally.

What do we fear? The UNKNOWN! Make it be known personally.

I admit that only a few can get their way out from the circle, but some people need to be the wayshowers in my opinion. I don’t intend to show anything, I just try to share my insights and offer my knowledge as help, as I’m deeply this type. The main type with big names, if they have power to be the mouth of personal truths, many tend to overdo it.

So back to the big mouthed thinkers. They are speaking out huge spiritual ideas and truths, which are obviously false and self-made truths, they write dozens of books alone, maybe giving away channeling material, or just life philosophies, the scale is very wide. Monetary gain and greed is everywhere. If enough people believe what you said, you will have more power (I won’t name systems here, it is obvious).

NEVER ever listen to anybody without caution and scepticism because if you believe in just anybody, you will get burnt. That is a big life lesson, don’t be stupid and naive. People are what they are. If it isn’t obvious that if somebody doesn’t do any useful thing and he/she speaks for hours everywhere about his/her own philosophy as “THE TRUTH”, trying to sell book, any material, a service, than the coin will fall hardly. There are self-contradictions, saying always the same “truths”.
It is like – a little sidenote – when dumb people say to you, stay around people, be with them. Right, they are surrounded like-minded people, keeping him/her on the same level, sucking energy and limiting.

I found out after years that one thing was always obvious. They are telling a personal truth, which is NOT true for you. Never. Everybody is living in their own little cosmic multileveled Multiverse and you interpret everything on your own. You have personal beliefs, ablities and thoughts, if something is worked for some, it won’t for you!
I’m not saying everybody lies here. I could say but the fact is, everybody has their own BELIEF that this or that is the ultimate truth! It is not. Me and You have our own, and it changes for some over time. Maybe not, but you won’t ever know the ultimate truth because that is ONLY YOU!

So the topic here is the actual thing these days around the world.
People are doing this to themselves. Nothing really complicated. What you are, you are projecting it to the external world. You are influencing others and this way everybody has their own share. One human can’t really change the whole world and people are what they are at the being level for a personal reason. I always met the average people in my life like them. They are all suffering in their own false beliefs, misery and illusions and acting like a victim. People don’t want to and won’t change, they will continue do this in a being level non-physically in the “Afterlife” and fool themselves further. People should accept the consequences about themselves already but they won’t. What happens is their is a bad circumstance, they will fuel it further to make it even much worse. If they don’t change here, they will be forced on their own, because they are not ready to move on to the next school level, so to speak. On their own means, alone. While here in the physical time is the factor for change, in the NP it is fueling forever. It is up to the individual to realize they are keeping themselves in a self created hell.

I could say here that I admit, not everybody is like a well experienced soul deep inside, if it was the evidence that this world won’t be like here and now. We are making it this way (most of us), our consciousness the only one which does this in a well constructed illusional world.

Killing people, changing bad people’s place with seemingly good ones won’t change anything ever. Almost everybody acts from fear and ego. People obviously need wayshowers but not in a doctrination way. I’m not religious in any way but I could mention Jesus here. He was a wayshower but ended up in tragedy what he intended to do further. People acted from fear and deny anything which doesn’t fit into their ego. Then lies are continued for milleniums. The fun thing is that our time measurement in years are starting from his timeline lol. People like to lie themselves, this way keeping up the false facade.

Don’t care about those prophecies of armageddon and end of the worlds and any ET contact and spaceship arrivals to save us (from what? each other?). Those are personal beliefs from some mainstream people and misinformations from the interpretations from the non-physical, going hand by hand between these people. The future is a probable outcome, nothing is set in stone ever. Only if you believe in it.
And it won’t help if you shut off any negativity from your life by not watching TV or closing out people with bad intentions – your programmed emotions, thoughts will still run in the background influencing your thoughts and beliefs further internally and thus externally. We need to understand the nature of consciousness, make research and any truth will be our own only. Our thoughts and behavour on a being level with our fears have impact on the external world and having consequencies.

It is not about the money, be and stay what you are!

We all need money to survive in this world but it is only a man-made construct and doesn’t give us love and inner development. We can build up a safe life, it is ok. But when people are making out various ideas, new industries which are declining money, and starting NEW money making businesses (lol), I ask this question, did that worth? One system changes into another useless one and just the most can’t realize soon, they are fooled again. The whole-food industry, making your own garden, doing this new idea or Bitcoin in an illusion of no more money. People are so naive and we tend to fall into this trap too, intelligent ones. Those won’t change the world and people. Of course it is nice to grow own food and share (for money again?) but people won’t change and the intention behind these ideas are false partly. People are tossing money on other ways into each other’s pockets and nothing is changed. The biggest lie in the newest “eat healthy and grow your own food industry” (= money making again) is that you are not killing any animals… Are these people such stupid? You are now “killing” more plants with less consciousness than animals… great but these people are satisfied, instead understanding life and consciousness.  But nonono don’t kill animals, compassion! Ok I admit you are not killing the whole plant if you are harvesting only what is above the dirt.
But if you don’t kill (not you, the industries in mass slaughter) an animal, the nature will do it… does that matter? They will move on to the next existance level, who cares, it was only a physically projected body. I mean that is the fact. It is like we are dieing. We continue on a dfferent level and learn further. People are body fixated from false beliefs and brainwash from our society. If you see a dead meat on the shop’s self, it is only a body part, not a dead animal. But if you see a whole dead animal body on a slaughter site, does that really matter? People won’t avoid any killing, it is necessary to fuel our body with animal and plant based food.
People will always find other ways to do what they did, if you cut a head down, others will grow back there. Excuses are made always from false reasons and fear. That is what they are, they won’t change so soon but some of us can encourage them to look into themselves. Never try to force change others of course, it won’t work! You wouldn’t be happy in the other case.

Believing is not knowing, always remember it. Make own researches what is true and eventually things will fall into one piece, which will be your own truth. Don’t ever copy others, it won’t work in the long run and rob your individuality.
If for example every people would be nice and developed in inner being and understanding, maybe we wouldn’t need laws not even corrupted ones.

You can change if you want to and feel necessary. Acting from love is not the same as being that force and sharing it. Without the BS load of course. I hope I can sometimes inspire others.

Nightly terrors and bad dreams, abductions

This issue is pretty simple and I’ve seen many many self-voted people talking about this subject in many videos and blogs, websites – actually they have no slight idea about what they are talking about, same as “alien abductions”. People are copying each other, it is dumb.

First of all, you need to learn according to your own life experiences over time sooner or later that your thoughts – and eventually this way – your mind is very powerful and you can manifest any kinds of circumstances, “power” to experience and decode your own reality in the physical life how you decide to experience it. There are also limits to abilities but the truth is about the nightly problems are that every individual are causing it to themselves! You are constantly interpreting your reality here and now according to consensus reality agreements and personal decoding.

Thoughts, released uncontrolled

For first you must agree on, that you release hundreds or thousands of thoughts each day, not even realizing it that your thoughts are forming your personal reality from the subjective inner reality but causing probable futuristic outcomes. It takes seemingly physical time in our liner time perspective.
As your thoughts are containing fearful notions and bad habits of thinking, you can experience very bad situations and circumstances both in physical life and in non-physical life. Your experiences are what you are thinking mostly, I mean just mostly.

The non-physical is here right now on a different mind-channel, you just can’t maybe reach it consciously. Forget what every people say about it, you are always there while you are asleep. You can also get influence from there daily but not in that idiotish way which people are spreading to effect you with fear. Look at this the other way: the physical and non-physical are the SAME but the physical has restrictive rulesets like physical body as a buffer towards events. It is NOT you, it is a projection, feeling “real”.

Everybody should check whatever they think daily because this is one of the primary reasons why we are in the physical dimension to live physical life. If you can’t check your thoughts and can’t keep them in control, you may don’t have sudden effects mostly here as your physical body serves as a filter, but in the non-physical – from where we came from – you are experiencing your own thoughts instantly without realizing it. Here you are living physical life to learn to grow up and not just control them but to take responsibility about your thoughts. If you don’t learn it right now, you will later, maybe after hundreds of lifetimes. I won’t waste my time on this lol.

Uncontrolled thoughts are causing released emotions, not the other way. Emotions are fueling experiences. Bad ones are the worst, they are causing these unpleasant experiences over night too. In the NP, you fear something, you can’t stop it, if you don’t stop your thoughts about that situation it will be magnified very much, because that is how the wider reality works.

So what is happening over night?

It is simple, nothing complicated. You are close to the non-physical and just releasing all your thoughts which are fueled with emotions and they tend to manifest so bad situations that you may not returning back to the physical dimensions completely but actual leftover thought forms are manifesting “around your bed” and you are fueling it. You are creating those fears, not some kind of “evil” entities are hurting you. YOU are doing it! You fear from your own aspects, which are you, personalized! Start laugh towards them or act on love and happiness. It is hard but you are actually fighting with yourself. People need to grow up non-physically.

Why are you experiencing personalized aspects of yourself? Because physical human life is about objective viewpoint and we are objectifying everything, that is how the human part of our mind works. Subjective viewpoint in the NP is very different.

When people are going to sleep, they – from a very bad civilisational habit and programming – tend to black out to just “sleep” towards the morning and they soon realize maybe that they are “elsewhere” in a non-physical training ground (surprise why is that name is the label) and they instantly release all their thoughts from previous days and events which are running in the background always, but never checking them and knowing about them. So you are in a thought responsive environment and you are thinking about somehing is approaching you, omg what is that? And you just instantly interpret that something with your fearful ego, fueling it into some kind of evil entity, now you are in great fear, fueling it further (automatically) and further until you can’t escape and getting up in your bed in great fear, screaming etc. Children basically can experience this because they freshly learnt stupid human concepts from this world. I experienced it too in my childhood for a few times when I haven’t got any idea about the non-physical endless world.

So you had a so called nightly terror, alien abduction (the same, no aliens want your butt), evil entities (evil is only your perception) etc. Even if you THINK you woke up and the entity is still there, you are not awake physically! You are in a parallel world, facing your own fear construct. Stop fooling yourself. Check your thoughts and eliminate fear based beliefs from your life! If you would act towards a thought form with curiousness with some kind of positive attitude, it would be a fairy or some kind of “kind” character.
I repeat it, not the actual character or any thought form causes you to be afraid, you are doing it and this way the thought form changes into what you are thinking.

The worst is as the internet is flooded with shit all over, people are talking out their own theories as facts about these kind of things which they have no idea what they are talking about, no personal objective observations are made and they are believing their TRUTH so well, they are actually speaking self-made facts. Don’t believe anything, questiont them! Many of people are objectifying their own personal belief constructs.

And search for non-physical resources, forums and start learn about the wider reality if you don’t want to fool yourself. There are many billions over there in the so called “Afterlife”, stucking in for an eternity in self-made fear loops and addictions, don’t follow them. We are not here for gather physical resources and act on dramas, to hate each other and suffer! Physical life just a big illusional facade.

How to raise your good vibration with various tools!

Are you in bad mood, or having bad days since a while? Or maybe you were always in a negative loop, wandering how to get out to feel better? The tools are there.

Good mood elevating methods are everywhere, but you need to know what is natural for yourself. If your average vibration is too low, your physical body suffers from a potential negative thinking deep inside on an ongoing basis. Nothing complicated, everything is vibrating in the Universe starting from atoms.

Music, the frequency elevater and natural healer

If you enjoy some kind of music, like pop, rock, classical etc. then you can just plug in your headphones or your speaker and enjoy it. Take time for yourself daily a few times to get rid of negative thoughts and behavour. Music in itself is a natural healer. If you try to experiment with various volume strengths, you may dive into the songs/tracks and melt in the feeling. It is very useful if you are very emphatic and feel the singer’s feelings and the melody’s effects like me and you may start to vibrate slightly.

Music can help in healing from illnesses or mental stress. What it does is, when you are flowing with your most beautiful tracks, your body’s frequency starts to tune up to higher levels and this way more NP abilities are opening up, especially self-healing.
In the end, you get good mood, no stress, happiness from the repeated effect. Just try it and keep it up mostly if you can.

Maybe laugh is your favourite

Laughing is diminishing stress naturally and keeping you in the joy of life. My best method is to make friends laugh and known people or maybe strangers too to laugh. Maybe I didn’t say a good joke or just told some funny thing, maybe only a gesture. My perspective is not for myself to laugh, but both parties from a natural ability so to speak. I enjoy doing this to others if the effect is positive! It can help if you managed to laugh on yourself too. Don’t give a damn to people and don’t take life so seriously, enjoy it in the moment, learn to laugh it off.

Play a game!

If you like PC games or any other non-electronic solutions, try to imagine right now, what kind of game was your favourite when you felt yourself in joy. That is the one which you need. You can play any kinds of games.

Make a trip to a favourite place or just enjoy a chat with a friend

Maybe you have places to visit when you have time for them – time for yourself. Nice places may make good times also as friends. They are both for detach from the crap we experience almost daily and just not pay any attention, appreciate them!
Friends are coming and going in our life but if it is a useful friendship on both sides, it can make miracles when we (and they) need some help. Friends, good family members and loved ones are there to help each other to get rid of bad events too and guide themselves. Well not every family is actually supporting or containing positive members.

Eat some sweet or whatever you enjoy

Here I’m just mentioning sweets and chocolates which are proven to release endorphin and you may feel a little bit happiness only from eating a chocolate bar alone. It could help a lot. Don’t feel guilty eating it in moderation, the effect here is beneficial!

Enjoy nature

If you are that type who can enjoy nature outside, just go for a ride on your bike, take a jog nearby, walk an hour and listen to nature. Look around you, how the sunshine reflects on water or dances in colors, look around if you are at places of trees with nice vibrant colors, any plants nearby. If you can spot natural animals around, watch them. Detach from negativism and notice what we have. The daily sunshine in itself can change us in many ways, starting from absorbing Vitamin D and healing rays, also maybe you are that type who enjoys nightly walks/jogging. Silence in itself in suburban areas can make a good effect too.

Good mood elevation for higher frequency

Well this one comes from various methods like above. Those are just tools, but any tools are given to not get into a negative spiral in your life. If you lost your actual plan to do something in your life, get find one. It just don’t need to be a big aim and our time here and now is seemingly endless when we live in the now, but also it seems like running away many times.

The whole issue here is that your actual vibrating rate – the non-physical one – is pretty low and you need to raise it by doing something or changing your thinking throughout your day. Many people who are mentally ill or have various physical diseases are caused by their own repeated negative thoughts and destroying their physical body, which is the vehicle to experience their life here and now. Don’t try to understand ever why people are hurting themselves, just don’t, you don’t want to let you dragged down! I know for sure it could be very struggling to shake ourselves back to the positive side after some negative life events and situations, but nobody may do it for us.

Life is a game. Ok not for all but we can enjoy it if we really would like to. Find your positive side and enjoy it fully. Don’t give any attention to the negative ones. It could be very hard not to but energy goes where our thoughts are flowing and becomes our reality over “time”. Do you want to remember your negative life or the positive one at the end?

The Focus Model from F1 to F4 – part 4 (FOCUS 3 – The Afterlife, Belief System Territories)

After we leave Focus 2, we can experience the entrance structures, which are leading us to various facilities and buildings, maybe a city, which is for one purpose – welcoming those who just recently left their physical focus, on other words they “died” and they switch on to their non-physical perspective.
Here comes the big thing.

The whole place is for various purposes, “people” like doctors, practicioners and specialists are helping others on various way to help heal you from your recent life and shake you back to function fully. You need to – for you own sake – shake off the previous life. There are various places to heal people from big emotional shocks of experiencing death and that place, healing those who only needs some adjusting and people who needs to shake off beliefs etc.

Heavens, Hells, various repeating situations

Now the Afterlife is a trap for most, full of Belief System Territories. It is not a bad thing on the other hand, because in a certain consciousness level, many people tend to choose the path to shake off beliefs and regain their true power, knowledge and realise that they are much more. But after what experienced travelers reported back, billions and billions, maybe quadrillions are just wasting themselves from a “higher self” perspective and the potential is lost, like a probe sent out and hardly returning back to their full potential, instead being addicted to physical life.

People there are enjoying various heavens and hells, other places, which all resonating with their beliefs to a certain degree. So why is this a problem? Well you will surely get bored and you need to realise that this is an illusion but this is another story.
What people can imagine as those places, are already existing. If you believe that there is “Hell” but you don’t believe that you will get there, you won’r.

Countless F3 Cities, Worlds

I was already in countless cities there, which are “located” on the higher or outer edges in theory, but if we understand the phasing model, there is no space, you only travel “there” with your thoughts or rather switch to a different channel, but visually they are may interconnected seemingly from a certain observational point.

People are continuing living their lives there. Building houses, going to work etc, which they only know and can’t help that notion – they are still addicted to human nature. You don’t need sleep for your non-existing body, you don’t need food, money to pay your bills, you do whatever you want to and meanwhile, people are just doing what they were familiar to in Focus 1, completely forgetting that there is much much more in the Wider Reality. You may spend thousands physical like years there, and you didn’t even see a tiny little fraction from this place.

In the closest regions there are addictive people, suffers, self-fooling everywhere. I try to avoid placing these “places” physically like on a map. And don’t misunderstand me but suffer could be many thing according to the actual person. Some people are reliving their painful death a million times, that is a hell too. Helpers are everywhere to help who are dedicated their task to do it from free will, it is a job so to speak and they can’t help everybody, there are just too much people needy for help.

The “outer” regions are for people who adjusted themselves finally to the non-physical and they are living a good life there. They are dead and proud. Maybe they are planning their next journey, but in linear time means maybe 1000 years are passing by for an “individual” while he just stops his/her acts and continue to live a meaningful life. No hurry there, because no time there.

And Afterlife or Focus 3 is just a tiny little fragment, only our local system’s place. Only the human world’s border. There are endless realities, races (ET’s) and they also have their own Afterlife there in the much Wider Reality… nothing is like a closed box place. People are just can’t gain back their true potential – most of them – because there is much more! The only limits are made by you!

Your beliefs will determine your initial life “there”

As I said above, in what you believe, will happen and you will be at a certain place which resonates mostly with you. It is like a vibrational match by your thoughts and beliefs. Nothing is wrong with it of course, eventually after a long “time” we will go further. Learning doesn’t stop after we leave physical realities. A non-physical entity won’t stay in a static state ever.

Now, Focus 3 relatively ends here and comes the so called (R.M.) inter- or transdimensional area which connects worlds. Of course there is no end, I mean physically speaking from an objective persception. But remember here now everything is relatively subjective. If you didn’t learn to behave and control your thoughts and emotions in the physical, you won’t disturb people in the other regions, who are more advanced. You are simply not allowed stand to somebody who is master of it’s thoughts. You may will be kicked out from that place instant.

But! You are relatively free to roam around after adjusting “back” to Focus 3. We all came from there.

Focus 4 is a fully different perspective, that is the umbrella Focus level or channel. People call it Higher Self or Essence what exists there, but there is no higher or lower self, it is a pure mystical crap, not understanding the basics, that YOU already occupy every level of focuses. If you enter this focus stage, you cease to exist as an objective somebody, total disintegration of the previous self and you gain back your true self. We are all starting here from pure energy. This is the death of ego, which keeps you trapped in a character which is only a fragment of you.

The Focus Model from F1 to F4 – part 3 (FOCUS 2, the VOID, 3D Blackness)

To go further in the Focus model, here comes Focus 2 state of consciousness. This part is a little bit tricky and amazing at the same time, because this mind “area” is for function in the physical world. Mystics and mainstraim media calls it the “subconscious” but I have serious doubts that this belief construct is real after I understood the mechanics. If we use accurate labels it is The Void, 3D blackness and Dreamland.

Focus 2 is the bridge between the physical and the Afterlife – partly

Ok in reality there is no AFTER life, because we are just existing in every levels, we just have a primary intensive focus here and now. After death, we switch our primary focus to the non-physical world.

Focus 2 is a programmable mind area, each of us have a unique one which is only individual. We on a larger scale constructed this “place” to use it for creating and creative work in the physical, Focus 1.
This state contains the famous 3D blackness where instant thought becomes reality and it is also the so called Void, which connects eventually this focus level with the entrance to the Focus 3, where people continue to live their lives after they did the exit as we know by “death”. So eventually it leads you to the “Transition Zone”.

Practiced people could enter this mind state from meditation and can experience the endless 3D blackness, which is already a non-physical world so to speak, and they can create many many thought forms. When we die in Focus 1, we gather what we saved on this Focus level and bringing back to Focus 3, because this is what we are all, what we thought, created, beliefs, likes and dislikes etc. This is very dangerous also… if you were a certain person here in F1, you won’t change suddenly when you returned there and quadrillions are slaves of their own beliefs and emotions without control or want to change.

Focus 2 is called “subconscious”

It made me struggle and still have doubts about the validity of an existing subconscious concept, which is told people since I guess thousands of years that you have that unconscious mind which is running in the background and if you have life problems, you must blame that and change your thoughts. I will try to explain this thing in another post because it is very twisted. The fact that regressionist could talk with people’s subconscious in hypnosis, proves that you have serious belief constructs which could speak as an individum through you! Not the other way.
Channeling people are talking with their own Focus 2 mind, they unconsciously created certain personal aspects which does your work instead of you. That is a fact.

Focus 2 mind state is our manifesting area of our consciousness continuum

When we live our life here, we are manifesting everything from an unknown “place”. Things and concepts are not appearing up suddenly from nowhere without any cause in the physical, they need to solidify from thought energy. We are living our life as a simulation and everything sooner or later matched up with our beliefs, emotions and thoughts which we just spam out everyday.

If you want to change your life, you need to first observe your beliefs about a certain life situation or problem and change it to a positive one. You can experiment with a certain mix if beliefs, thoughts, emotions and visual input dialy, until you see some effects forming up in your daily life. In short, if you can’t imagine it, you can’t experience it.
If you rarely notice changes in your life, that could be from your contradictory thoughts and beliefs.

Every physical object, concept, structure, even belief constructs are stemming from the non-physical, in this case from Focus 2 mind state. Not the other way. That’s why the physical is an end result.

We are mostly dreaming in Focus 2

People are just falling asleep, switching mostly their unconscious focus to Focus 2 and they just release every emotions, thoughts and they are developing into images, scenes, complete experiences. Those could be about the previous day’s carp, recent worries from life, maybe a wish, and running thoughts which people just don’t accept or notice throughout their days. And because this mindstate is manifesting fast whatever you think or feel, you will experience your own mind’s datas instantly in the NP.
So basically you are still in your own mind in a different perspective in a different “dimension” and your physical body is on automatic sleep. You are not in your head and never been. This in itself proves that consciousness continues to exist elsewhere, it is eternal and pure energy.

I should mention the Void and the 3D blackness here but they are just part of this mind state, nothing interesting, parts of the structure. If you manage to project your mind into Focus 2, you can experience them. Also when people are believing that after death there is “nothing”, they can find themselves in this area of their own mind, floating with a seemingly forever time-feeling. Focus 2 contains the entrance structures into Focus 3.

Thougts, emotions, beliefs

Suprise, they are “stored” in F2. If you have those, they are very real and making you up as a person. You can change them if you want to. They all will create your physical reality and experiences, there is no exception. Some people experience some in maybe some minutes, but many changed beliefs maybe having effect after weeks and months. Manifesting is not easy for many people. It is hard for me a little bit too because I’m relatively free from beliefs which is rare but have some strong personal ones as everybody.

Your thoughts are building up your future and daily experiences.
Your emotions are fueling your thoughts further to magnify them.
Your beliefs are constantly keeping you in various life situations until you change them.

If you repeat self-suggestions about a continous life situation, you are keeping it solid.

The future

Ok the future is also manifested here. There is NO FUTURE! It is a concept which we made up to understand linear time in Focus 1. In the non-physical, there is no time also, so entities there only see probabilities and experiencing constant eternal NOW. Selecting and planning physical world life is also selecting an actual starting point in that actual physical world’s timeline.

Future is made up purely of probabilities. Future IS a probability and you are creating it by your thoughts, choices. It is never set in stone. Understanding this you may understand manifesting too and that how people could hung up on the concept of “future is set in stone” BS and that you can’t help on your situation – yes you can but it takes time and effort with controlled thoughts. Very few can do this in my opinion.

It could be, manifestation is a new age thing again, but we are always doing it throughout our life.

After leaving Focus 2 or after our physical death here in F1, we change primary focus and “return” to the non-physical to Focus 3.

How to manifest petting a cat!

Well, I thought it is time for some fun here and what would it be for other people to manifest like this. It surely works.

Here is a simple experiment for catching a cat and pet her/him. This is only meant for a little experiment to see, your thoughts are building your “future” and practice it.

I made a fun experiment with this almost a week ago and before that I had successes, but I didn’t know what caused it. Manifesting will be a bigger topic which I share later, but builds up from a few things.

So here it is. If you like cats, they are outside and you can meet some. Especially in a suburban area. Try to think about you are in that moment, right now, meeting a nice cat and petting it. Now this issue says, you will meet one and really pet her/him, if that one is perfect match with your thoughts. If you only imagined that you are actually just encountering a cat, that one may never come close, run away or maybe scratch your fingers when you try to do it. Imagine the whole scene in the present moment, or rather it just happened and doing it.

So imagine you pet a cat and you enjoy it. Imagine it visually, not defining anything, only a nice cat. No daytime, no place, no color, nothing. Imagine that you like it, attaching positive feelings and you may add some affirmations that you are doing it, that’s all. You can practice it a few times a day but in my experiment I did only twice at the maximum and under 30 hours, it happened, when I didn’t even expect it and was walking with a friend, chatting at the evening.

Before that I only wished for it for fun, but never thought about how did I do it when I was successful. Many times it was instant inside 5-10 minutes outside. Wishing and hoping never gives you your future, it only tells you, you lack of that thing and it is magnifying itself up. This is a mind work.

Have a nice play! : )

What counts in your physical life?

Now there are many many theories and rulesets which people are made and thought out over the years mostly in spiritual forums and also we can hear this and that in personal life, chatting with people. Your life is only yours.

Your physical life is for a reason. You came here to this reality to play a game on your own. Now I know for many, it is not a good game and they suffer. But it is meant to be a good experience chain, well eventually we leave from here and coming back to the non-physical to do whatever we would like to. Don’t take the game too seriously.

I won’t share any mystical and religious concepts, I rather decline all and will. Now what I say in my blogs are coming from personal observations, experiences and from making up the bigger picture of the truth, maybe personal truth mostly about the wider reality and it’s mechanics.
So what I say here is that the most accurate thing here is that you were the one who planned your initial life here and started up. Now many people just can’t figure out why did they select a certain family or life circumstances, body type, etc. To learn and grow from them! Not the learning itself is the most required thing here, but that you are acting and experiencing here and making decisions from your heart.
You are forced to use your creative power and learning to create your reality on your own.

Right or wrong decisions

There is no right or wrong. We only learnt that in this duality world you need to make distinctions between those two, but really, it doesn’t matter. The main issue is that did you learn or gain something about a certain decision or life experience?
Did you make decision based on your fears or from your heart without fear?

Everybody have a certain compass against good and bad, we just developed our sense from birth. The other side is what your Inner non-physical self thinks is right or wrong, but that doesn’t matter. Your non-physical counterpart doesn’t judge or punish you ever, just helping you indirectly mostly – it depends on the individual and how ready to hear the helping “words”.
Your developing personality here and now, which you bring “back” to the NP is the one what counts and you are becoming it by choosing and making decisions.

Your choices are only like you are choosing another path and another one continously, as jumping to the next reality and the next, all the endless possible realities are there and you are just seemingly without any effect, going in and out of those. Now we can call it physical time, but time is really an illusion. It has a function: do you make the wrong decision over and over again for decades? You have plenty time to do it.
When you make a wrong decision, you may feel bad after that and facing it’s effects but, this reality is about one thing for sure: You are in a slowed down environment, concentrating your awareness to one certain life, to make choose and choose and choose until you learn really that you chose well finally. That’s all! Decide from your heart and on what feels good for YOU! Not anybody else!

This is Your life, and you are worthy to live it in full joy!

We can surely get life situations when people are just stepping in our personal area of life and decisions really, like our family or partners. Egoist people are everywhere, who just can’t make correct decisions and suffer from their weakness. They even start to blame you or just telling you how should you live your life. Even comes the next stage what is good or bad for you etc. Now… who the hack cares about what others are thinking about you? We do care but we should stop it.
And the sad thing, they have an effect on you, because you just subconsciously processing what they said and will have negative outcome many times. You can’t help it, you can’t help them! You need to leave them where they are and stop giving them energy. Most of the people are just stucked in a loop of endless suffering, blames and egoism with stupidism. Let them alone fast.
You can be kind to anybody and just do it, that’s ok but eventually you need to keep up a passive barrier to not get caught up on others. Just don’t let yourself influence, your life and choices are yours. You can’t live other’s lives.
You should develop a passive personality, who can maintain a balance in any part of your life, starting with your emotions.

Influence on people and Your life

Here is a personal story from me. I many times had struggle with people who just didn’t stay with their own thoughts and forcing their views and beliefs on me or on others. I guess I saw this from my birth and observed people’s behavour. Most of them are like that – they try to influence you and you can’t escape (and the worst, they don’t care). The other side is true, even in family or just with people in your life, you CAN give advices to people if they need help, need information, your knowledge, your heart BUT you can’t force them do what they should. You can’t ever live other’s life. I got many messages from the non-physical over some nights because I couldn’t understand why people just want to suffer or doesn’t want to be their own help. Like they wasting their life. And got the message that you can’t live other’s life and let them alone. I felt negativism in my feelings because I think mostly from my good heart and seeing people like that is sad. But I had self-judgement that if I don’t help, I will be somebody who is frozen against these people, because I’m good and have a certain configuration deep inside. But that is not the case. From the non-physical perspective, everybody is responsible only for their life. Another case is of course if you are with somebody or going alone is not a good thing. That is right, don’t think this over further.

No respect towards your decisions, your life and your personality?

Just don’t give a damn to those people who can accept who you are, trying to influence you, or laughing at you, not giving even a tiny respect which you deserve. Everybody encounters with these people but it is sometimes really hard to get lost from them. The worst is close relationships like mostly our family members. Your life worths more than idiot people’s influence – let them tell their opinion to themselves and let them alone.
Why should you let people blame you or let them humiliate and influence you? Your self-esteem will lower and you lose your creating power. Just stay yourself, stay strong and remember, what counts is only You, your life experiences, joy and memories, your interactions from your side towards people and nothing else. You may did your best and that’s all. This is what you are bringing further, what makes you, YOU. But eventually you are here and now a limited character so don’t make the false assumption that this is only just you. We are much more than this limited character, but our added experiences from here are what counts really. You are becoming and developing.
Once more, your character here, this body, personality is just a construct from the beginning for various purposes, and you “become” eventually.

The main thing here is that you should always make decisions on your own, even if you need secondary support from your family or friends about what decision could maybe bad, but base your thoughts on what feels good or right for you. The other side of the game’s coin here is that we live with consequences always. Starting with our thoughts which build up in our subconscious as a running program and makes effect in the physical life later. That is manifestation, a so misunderstood aspect of everybody these days. Many people are just in fear to make correct decisions, and they are just stuck. Like regular job work.

So, if you want to suffer, here you go, do it.
If you want to be happy, that’s cool, do it. That’s all, nothing complicated.
The only barrier is the one which you pull up against yourself. Your limits, mental blocks.
It is up to you to live a good life in what you feel yourself good and it is not recommended that you need to swim in money or suffer in mental pain : )