Why we lose our friends over time?

Friends are very useful on both sides of a friendship and we are pleased to meet nice people over our decades here on Earth. Some people have best friends or many many pals, but friends are only guides as those non-physical ones are in the NP.

Why you have so much pals?

The answer will be a little bit harsh but because you can’t enjoy yourself alone and don’t want to maybe. You didn’t accept yourself fully ever and can’t give so much love towards others AFTER yourself. People like to defend themselves that they just enjoy being with friends but they are really just pals, maybe you can count on them, but not on their help mostly. And being antisocial is not this one, only a label. Antisocial means, he/she can’t fit in the actual society.

Friends and pals are two categories. We have maybe a few true friends in life, but we could have dozens of pals, who are only for playing with something, going to chat sometimes, do things in crowds, places etc. Pals are like you just can’t stay alone on your butt, like people are running away from themselves. I knew just many many people in my life and never understood this attitude until I realised what this is all about non-physically. You meet people, it is unavoidable here on this planet normally. You make pals and friendships but they are rarely for a lifetime and if it is, it serves a purpose to both parties. Pals are only for having some people in your bubble to feel yourself comfortable. Some people are just highly egoistic and they are shining their egos with the dozens of different pals, so called “friends” and can’t really realise that they are doing this because they just have a huge ego and trying to prove that they are right in just everything – even if they are not. These people are just shaking hands and saying hello to just everybody, which is sucks if you see this first hand. I know and knew many of these too, it was interesting to notice these behavours.

Why you have friends?

Friends are the best connections in life besides of relationships with love. We certainly need them at some point or forever. We need help sometimes, we need to have some fun with somebody, we just need to talk to somebody who will hear our words and may help. Well my friendship were only right on my side after the initial years in many cases, I never understood it in the recent years. Some of them were lasting for 10-15 years, it was good and suddenly they just disappeared, huge blocks came out of nowhere and I just didn’t have any idea what happened to those people that they are acting differently.
So friends are absolutely good, we are guiding each other through life until the connection doesn’t serve the original purpose anymore. That hurts surely but we should leave them alone and vica versa. Don’t forget, we are experiencing here, this is just a seeminly real game.

What causes to lose strong connections?

Well before I started to learn about self-development (before that I did it from birth) in the non-physical and between the two worlds, I had no idea why it is necessary to lose good friends. I mean really really good ones. Some of them are lasted for some weeks for me, but everybody experiences this phenomena. Until later I learnt that friends are only for a certain purpose. If you deeply don’t need them, chances are, you will be very much ok on your own like me. I guess that is a deep spiritual achievement to reach. I was partly always this type and I like it.

So friends and pals are acting here like non-physical guides in the NP. They serve a purpose: learn and grow, plus support. This is given to both sides of course. When you experience an almost sudden block in your relationships, two choices are given. You try to talk that out, or just leave that one alone. No other ways. Don’t try to even force your relationship to heal itself by arguing, you will suffer.
What happened is, you just outgrow that relationship and you are away ahead spiritually/non-physically on your own way. That’s all. You are on another track. The vast majority is just stagnating or slowly moving upwards on their own ladder.

By the way I noticed that the most just can’t really appreciate a friendship. Like no emotions or anything. They don’t even know what it means the verb “friend” means. Very strange, but that is true. People are just deeply in their butt in physical life, trying to work for nothing and chasing materialism.

Love relationships

That is almost the same, but with another strong aspect, love and relying on each other, making compromises/consensus between each other, experiencing the deepest non-physical forces, maybe having kids. We should admit, not every love relationships are lasting until elderly age, just a very very few. True love is not experienced in the vast majority, it is just a fashion to many. But if ture love and your perfect partner is given, you may experience it for only a few years. It was meant only to experience it, enjoy it and don’t try to understand a deeper meaning! One of the best things in life in my opinion to find somebody with whom you will be in the clouds seemingly forever. If it lasts for decades or until death, it’s better for some, but don’t ever try to follow her/him and suffer because the connection is seemingly gone – it is on another level.

Friends like non-physical guides

Some are there for your help, some are there for giving you protection in heavy moments in life indirectly, but they are there for a purpose and moving away on their tasks and interests further when they finished. We are doing the same. In a nutshell. Very similar to physical life friendships.

But keep it in mind, we came alone here to this life simulation, we are going back to the non-physical with a pack of tricks (R.M.) and we need to let other’s go on their own way of course. It was fun and good when those lasted of course, we guard those pretty memories forever and added to our experiences and inner being. Enjoy these connections until they are gone.

When You are in a negative spiral in life

Shit happens let’s be straight, with almost everybody. We are living a human life simulation, with other humans interacting with each other. Most of the time it is embarassing and stressful to just swallow other people’s controlling opinions and their blames all the time. Job life does it’s “job” to pull you down, also toxic family members are doing well their job.

How can you get out of the neg spiral?

The best way is to just get as far away as you can as soon as possible from the source of negativism and bad people. The vast majority are just blaming, sucking your energy and don’t let you think about your positive thoughts in your personal life and they just doesn’t care. People are just what they are and everybody is on their own steps of evolution. They won’t stop their misery – why should they stop their way of thinking, which they are constantly giving thought since maybe years or decades, huh?

If you are a work/job type, it is fine, you can switch to another job anytime if you wish. That is a huge fake thing when people are complaining, you can’t. Like you can’t find another one, there isn’t any… well their thoughts are creating their reality if they give enough energy, but You are not them! You have the options to switch to something which may serve your life better than the previous crap, which just slowly kills you emotionally. People are just dragging in their little box world all the way.
There is the saying that you can’t make people change in their behavour or whatever they should in our viewpoint. They won’t and don’t want to change – we should leave them alone fast.

The first step is given, start to work your way out of the crap and remember that your thoughts are building your probable future. Believe in yourself and know that you are not alone and many people could do it in similar situations.
The same goes on relationships and family issues.
If your friend or love is not a friendship or love anymore, just stop pulling yourself down constantly to their level. You have better things to do. New potential friends are always there on your actual level and you can find somebody in love later too if you wish for. The main key here is intention. Energy goes where your thoughts are.

Intention – the main energy flow

If you have the intention about getting out a negative spiral or out from negative people’s crowd like workmates, friends, family etc… than you should focus on whatever you want and not what you don’t want. That is the main difference. Your probable future goes wherever your thought energy is given, keep it in mind, test it, play with it.

It takes time I admit (a real pain in the butt), I had a mentally and emotionally toxic job experience too not so long ago, which went on months until I made (with some friendly help) make myself KNOW and believe that nobody could keep me there and I can go away. I just hated it and it went against my own rules about making a passive income somehow, but family issues went against my plans “again”. My collagues were always in misery, blaming, complaining – forgetting that they chose their job, not me and they also accepted the rules. This is a classical sign of working people and the number of people who are actually ok with their jobs is much less, like 1 out of 20. You don’t need to suffer in your life because this. Maybe it was a bad decision, but the world is always giving you better opportunities. By the way who the hack needs all of this?

Start in Yourself, deep inside first!

For first, just close your eyes, and close out any distractions (called meditation) and try to observe your thoughts. You may realise that your thoughts are based on fear and suffering from situations on which you don’t have any influence and can’t do anything. If you don’t have influence on people or similars, STOP giving thought energy on them. I know this issue too sure from various aspects of my life.
If you found your problems deep inside, you will have the solution soon. You must get away far from negative aspects of your life, rather convert them into positive feelings and formulate a little plan to solve the problem. This is not escapism, this is changing your life for better!

If it is work, there will be other opportunities, trust yourself.
Changing work life to independency is also a process, it takes time and effort to step from one into another smoothly.
If it is relationship, they are toxic and not serving the original purpose for both sides anymore, stop fueling them. You hurt yourself!
If it is family, well it could be harder because of the stronger relationship – stop fueling them either. We can’t make people change, don’t try it! Get away after you made sure yourself, you tried your best. An action plan is needed only for quit.

Remember back whenever you felt yourself well, in joy. Search back of those feelings and what caused them. You must learn to enjoy yourself on your own, not depending on other people. This is not egoism, this is being your true being and giving out your joy, making people better around you, better in looking with their heart.
You should learn to not depend on other’s love and kindness. You can give it too! Practice with it.

Trust yourself, stay in balance and don’t let other’s to influence you ever. They are just regular people, they will pull in their types.
You are here to live your life in joy, not in self-destruction!