Tragedies and problems are finding us time to time and people basically have no idea what can somebody benefit from them? Regular people only seeing the personal loss or anything which is casued by some kind of bad event or maybe a car accident, a death of a loved one, or just a really bad grade in school etc. But smaller tragedies can happen too.
Over my researches I found an interesting viewpoint about how to deal with personal tragedies and how can we benefit from those experiences. It seems very very simple from the subjective non-physical side, which includes a basic thing – our personal spiritual development in this aspect. Of course it is harder than said but it worths the try. Keep balance always in your decisions. And remember, our life is only a facade of a bigger play theme – each individual is stepping in their own path with their choices.
Ok, here you go: the only solution is -how you are dealing with tragedies, problems and many negative life experiences. How you deal with it, that’s all, how you make a solution, how you benefit from it, even if it is a huge tragedy, how you make a smart reaction which will benefit your inner growth in a positive way.
Why? Well we are on a training gound where we are learning constantly and developing – I admit it seem like the most are not even developing anywhere as billions are sleepwalking and indoctrinated but everybody does their job in physical life to slowly or faster but gain knowledge and have life experiences.
To get it short, dealing is one thing but dealing on a way that you are crashing yourself down in a personal loop of negativism and tragedy is not a good idea. The problem solving here means that you let go of bad things in your life, let go the negativity, bad people and bad relationships. Let go and close down those episodes in your life. This way you will only live in the famous present moment and don’t give away any energy towards a past which you can’t change (only your thinking) and also stop worrying on the future which is probable and you will only cause trouble of your thinking. Worry doesn’t solve anything, right?
Even if a relative died or somebody had broken up a connection with us, maybe our car crashed, it is sad and could make people broken in spirit. Don’t let it smash you down. Life is going forward even if people tend to cling on a moment which causing them degrade over years and decades for no reason. We need to let go those bad events in our life, acknowledge them as they happened, we can’t change them, look into the present moment and try to be yourself. You are unique and this way nobody can of course tell you how to live and what to like/dislike, which this society also forgot.
Benefiting: we can gain knowledge from anything, it is only a matter of perception on every sides. You may ask, ok how a handicapped somebody could deal with or benefit from his/her position in a wheelchair for example. How can his/her mother/father/any relative who takes care of him/her benefit and grow from this situation. The only thing here is the viewpoint, how we deal with it, how we accept the situation and do our best. The handicapped person is in his/her little Universe and dealing with his/her bad situation as best as he/she can and when his/her life is finished for this physical life time, this knowledge will be added to the non-physical, to share this circumstance with others. Those who were dealing with him/her, they will also grow from their perspective and learn some understanding of these situations which they – in normal life where people have perfect health condition – may not encounter with such a “trap” for their loved ones. It may be for a reason. Look at the non-physical side: entities (ok we can call them “people”) are constantly gaining knowledge from those who were brave enough to jump in a physical life and deal with the consequences of their choices. Most people won’t ever accept the consequences of their stupid behavour and we all know such people.
Tragedy is only existing in a dualistic world like our physical one here and now and we tend to get it very seriously. But on the other hand/side, we are gaining deeper understanding of these events in our life, which we may not really aware right now or it will be obvious after some years/decades. It is like when spiritual people are spreading that there is no right or wrong. I agree on this but because everything is just experience in a continuous chain of events for consciousness (You, Me, everybody) and we are our source consciousness’ focuses, using a human body right now.
Tragedies are always look like that because our society has categories and attached meaning for just everything. We grew up surely knowing what is what but they are unnecessary limits.
Dealing with problems are like keeping balance, mentioned above. We tend to just make decisions on our feelings but that is the worst thing to do. Thoughts are generating feelings, so we need to check our thoughts first and track back their causes. If we tend to practice mindful reactions, we can surely benefit from our bigger life events in any way, not just crashing off in misery.
Always take into consideration: why that event happened to You? How you will solve this problem or loss and get over to look ahead and stay yourself?
I hope I could help.