Tragedies and problems – dealing and benefiting from them

Tragedies and problems are finding us time to time and people basically have no idea what can somebody benefit from them? Regular people only seeing the personal loss or anything which is casued by some kind of bad event or maybe a car accident, a death of a loved one, or just a really bad grade in school etc. But smaller tragedies can happen too.

Over my researches I found an interesting viewpoint about how to deal with personal tragedies and how can we benefit from those experiences. It seems very very simple from the subjective non-physical side, which includes a basic thing – our personal spiritual development in this aspect. Of course it is harder than said but it worths the try. Keep balance always in your decisions. And remember, our life is only a facade of a bigger play theme – each individual is stepping in their own path with their choices.

Ok, here you go: the only solution is -how you are dealing with tragedies, problems and many negative life experiences. How you deal with it, that’s all, how you make a solution, how you benefit from it, even if it is a huge tragedy, how you make a smart reaction which will benefit your inner growth in a positive way.
Why? Well we are on a training gound where we are learning constantly and developing – I admit it seem like the most are not even developing anywhere as billions are sleepwalking and indoctrinated but everybody does their job in physical life to slowly or faster but gain knowledge and have life experiences.

To get it short, dealing is one thing but dealing on a way that you are crashing yourself down in a personal loop of negativism and tragedy is not a good idea. The problem solving here means that you let go of bad things in your life, let go the negativity, bad people and bad relationships. Let go and close down those episodes in your life. This way you will only live in the famous present moment and don’t give away any energy towards a past which you can’t change (only your thinking) and also stop worrying on the future which is probable and you will only cause trouble of your thinking. Worry doesn’t solve anything, right?

Even if a relative died or somebody had broken up a connection with us, maybe our car crashed, it is sad and could make people broken in spirit. Don’t let it smash you down. Life is going forward even if people tend to cling on a moment which causing them degrade over years and decades for no reason. We need to let go those bad events in our life, acknowledge them as they happened, we can’t change them, look into the present moment and try to be yourself. You are unique and this way nobody can of course tell you how to live and what to like/dislike, which this society also forgot.

Benefiting: we can gain knowledge from anything, it is only a matter of perception on every sides. You may ask, ok how a handicapped somebody could deal with or benefit from his/her position in a wheelchair for example. How can his/her mother/father/any relative who takes care of him/her benefit and grow from this situation. The only thing here is the viewpoint, how we deal with it, how we accept the situation and do our best. The handicapped person is in his/her little Universe and dealing with his/her bad situation as best as he/she can and when his/her life is finished for this physical life time, this knowledge will be added to the non-physical, to share this circumstance with others. Those who were dealing with him/her, they will also grow from their perspective and learn some understanding of these situations which they – in normal life where people have perfect health condition – may not encounter with such a “trap” for their loved ones. It may be for a reason. Look at the non-physical side: entities (ok we can call them “people”) are constantly gaining knowledge from those who were brave enough to jump in a physical life and deal with the consequences of their choices. Most people won’t ever accept the consequences of their stupid behavour and we all know such people.

Tragedy is only existing in a dualistic world like our physical one here and now and we tend to get it very seriously. But on the other hand/side, we are gaining deeper understanding of these events in our life, which we may not really aware right now or it will be obvious after some years/decades. It is like when spiritual people are spreading that there is no right or wrong. I agree on this but because everything is just experience in a continuous chain of events for consciousness (You, Me, everybody) and we are our source consciousness’ focuses, using a human body right now.
Tragedies are always look like that because our society has categories and attached meaning for just everything. We grew up surely knowing what is what but they are unnecessary limits.

Dealing with problems are like keeping balance, mentioned above. We tend to just make decisions on our feelings but that is the worst thing to do. Thoughts are generating feelings, so we need to check our thoughts first and track back their causes. If we tend to practice mindful reactions, we can surely benefit from our bigger life events in any way, not just crashing off in misery.
Always take into consideration: why that event happened to You? How you will solve this problem or loss and get over to look ahead and stay yourself?

I hope I could help.

Jogging helps you stay young, healthy and happier

Some people like to jog or run outside, or maybe in a gym, others are just hate it. Well everybody have their own method to shake up their body but jogging alone is a natural solution to keep your bloodflow stable, your muscles in tone and your brain fresh. Also jogging can make you happier if you like to enjoy the world outside. I like jogging outside if I’m not in a lazy mood. Once an old friend showed me, how it is so enjoyable and cool to train my body and keep my mood up daily only with this sport or hobby. When you are jogging near a lake or some place with trees, animals in nature, nice sunshine, it is cool enough to observe the world while you are shaking your body.

Our physical body needs to move on it’s own and running a little bit in every few days could do it’s job for a 20-30 minutes daily. You don’t need to overdo it and take it too seriously, but it could help with various physical problems. The muscle system in itself needs movement really.

If you have back problems, muscle spasms, maybe bloodflow problem or just living a physically passive lifestyle, you may benefit from jogging if you are able to do it. The main issue here is that the process as you just run with your own method and speed, the whole system starts to clear out toxins, carry bloodflow where it is needed and didn’t get because of the lack of movements (job, passive lifestyle, sitting) and the brain’s functions will improve also. The added benefit is a faster bowel movement for help your stool. It is a natural toxin flusher like sunshine or a good “gym” outside. Loners and pairs both could try it and enjoy it. Well chatting wihle you are spitting out your lungs is not a good idea but fun still : )

Running alone won’t make you slimmer, but can help kick the process. I saw so many people, thinking that jogging will cause some kind of weight loss. They are constantly running on the same route, the same daytime and they are still that body typed person as were before. Your mind and your eating habits will do the job, with a changed lifestyle. Change your mindset and don’t ever overdo it.

A big mistake usually in this sport is that people jog on concrete and solid hard surfaces. You may kill your joints and as you step on your feet, your various body parts are just crashing up and down if you don’t have a proper technic to avoid aches and pain. You may find a path which is more soft like mulch or something which is the opposite than hard surfaces. Your joints will be very grateful in the long “run”.

Enjoy the running, don’t race with yourself! Find a method or your own speed to run a few kilometers only and try to maintain that distance always. There is no problem when you can’t reach the end, only half way. Well it happens mostly when we try to jog again after a long time of pause and we are out of practice. If the recommended distance for yourself is too much, run half a way and  rest for the other half – just walk, rest your muscles and lung, and enjoy nature.

If you feel that you spit out your lungs, try to stop racing with yourself and find a good speed, a slower one, which will be more enjoyable for yourself. Remember, this is not a serious business, you should enjoy it with nature. It is partly about forgetting the civilisational crap maybe only for half an hour.

Why we lose our friends over time?

Friends are very useful on both sides of a friendship and we are pleased to meet nice people over our decades here on Earth. Some people have best friends or many many pals, but friends are only guides as those non-physical ones are in the NP.

Why you have so much pals?

The answer will be a little bit harsh but because you can’t enjoy yourself alone and don’t want to maybe. You didn’t accept yourself fully ever and can’t give so much love towards others AFTER yourself. People like to defend themselves that they just enjoy being with friends but they are really just pals, maybe you can count on them, but not on their help mostly. And being antisocial is not this one, only a label. Antisocial means, he/she can’t fit in the actual society.

Friends and pals are two categories. We have maybe a few true friends in life, but we could have dozens of pals, who are only for playing with something, going to chat sometimes, do things in crowds, places etc. Pals are like you just can’t stay alone on your butt, like people are running away from themselves. I knew just many many people in my life and never understood this attitude until I realised what this is all about non-physically. You meet people, it is unavoidable here on this planet normally. You make pals and friendships but they are rarely for a lifetime and if it is, it serves a purpose to both parties. Pals are only for having some people in your bubble to feel yourself comfortable. Some people are just highly egoistic and they are shining their egos with the dozens of different pals, so called “friends” and can’t really realise that they are doing this because they just have a huge ego and trying to prove that they are right in just everything – even if they are not. These people are just shaking hands and saying hello to just everybody, which is sucks if you see this first hand. I know and knew many of these too, it was interesting to notice these behavours.

Why you have friends?

Friends are the best connections in life besides of relationships with love. We certainly need them at some point or forever. We need help sometimes, we need to have some fun with somebody, we just need to talk to somebody who will hear our words and may help. Well my friendship were only right on my side after the initial years in many cases, I never understood it in the recent years. Some of them were lasting for 10-15 years, it was good and suddenly they just disappeared, huge blocks came out of nowhere and I just didn’t have any idea what happened to those people that they are acting differently.
So friends are absolutely good, we are guiding each other through life until the connection doesn’t serve the original purpose anymore. That hurts surely but we should leave them alone and vica versa. Don’t forget, we are experiencing here, this is just a seeminly real game.

What causes to lose strong connections?

Well before I started to learn about self-development (before that I did it from birth) in the non-physical and between the two worlds, I had no idea why it is necessary to lose good friends. I mean really really good ones. Some of them are lasted for some weeks for me, but everybody experiences this phenomena. Until later I learnt that friends are only for a certain purpose. If you deeply don’t need them, chances are, you will be very much ok on your own like me. I guess that is a deep spiritual achievement to reach. I was partly always this type and I like it.

So friends and pals are acting here like non-physical guides in the NP. They serve a purpose: learn and grow, plus support. This is given to both sides of course. When you experience an almost sudden block in your relationships, two choices are given. You try to talk that out, or just leave that one alone. No other ways. Don’t try to even force your relationship to heal itself by arguing, you will suffer.
What happened is, you just outgrow that relationship and you are away ahead spiritually/non-physically on your own way. That’s all. You are on another track. The vast majority is just stagnating or slowly moving upwards on their own ladder.

By the way I noticed that the most just can’t really appreciate a friendship. Like no emotions or anything. They don’t even know what it means the verb “friend” means. Very strange, but that is true. People are just deeply in their butt in physical life, trying to work for nothing and chasing materialism.

Love relationships

That is almost the same, but with another strong aspect, love and relying on each other, making compromises/consensus between each other, experiencing the deepest non-physical forces, maybe having kids. We should admit, not every love relationships are lasting until elderly age, just a very very few. True love is not experienced in the vast majority, it is just a fashion to many. But if ture love and your perfect partner is given, you may experience it for only a few years. It was meant only to experience it, enjoy it and don’t try to understand a deeper meaning! One of the best things in life in my opinion to find somebody with whom you will be in the clouds seemingly forever. If it lasts for decades or until death, it’s better for some, but don’t ever try to follow her/him and suffer because the connection is seemingly gone – it is on another level.

Friends like non-physical guides

Some are there for your help, some are there for giving you protection in heavy moments in life indirectly, but they are there for a purpose and moving away on their tasks and interests further when they finished. We are doing the same. In a nutshell. Very similar to physical life friendships.

But keep it in mind, we came alone here to this life simulation, we are going back to the non-physical with a pack of tricks (R.M.) and we need to let other’s go on their own way of course. It was fun and good when those lasted of course, we guard those pretty memories forever and added to our experiences and inner being. Enjoy these connections until they are gone.

When You are in a negative spiral in life

Shit happens let’s be straight, with almost everybody. We are living a human life simulations, with other humans interacting with each other. Most of the time it is embarassing and stressful to just swallow other people’s controlling opinions and their blames all the time. Depression can occur and negative thinking. Job life does it’s “job” to pull you down, also toxic family members are doing well their job.

How can you get out of the neg spiral?

The best way is to just get as far away as you can as soon as possible from the source of negativism and bad people. The vast majority are just blaming, sucking your energy and don’t let you think about your positive thoughts in your personal life and they just doesn’t care. People are just what they are and everybody is on their own steps of evolution. They won’t stop their misery – why should they stop their way of thinking, which they are constantly giving thought since maybe years or decades, huh?

If you are a work/job type, it is fine, you can switch to another job anytime if you wish. That is a huge fake thing when people are complaining, you can’t. Like you can’t find another one, there isn’t any… well their thoughts are creating their reality if they give enough energy, but You are not them! You have the options to switch to something which may serve your life better than the previous crap, which just slowly kills you emotionally. People are just dragging in their little box world all the way.
There is the saying that you can’t make people change in their behavour or whatever they should in our viewpoint. They won’t and don’t want to change – we should leave them alone fast.

The first step is given, start to work your way out of the crap and remember that your thoughts are building your probable future. Believe in yourself and know that you are not alone and many people could do it in similar situations.
The same goes on relationships and family issues.
If your friend or love is not a friendship or love anymore, just stop pulling yourself down constantly to their level. You have better things to do. New potential friends are always there on your actual level and you can find somebody in love later too if you wish for. The main key here is intention. Energy goes where your thoughts are.

Intention – the main energy flow

If you have the intention about getting out a negative spiral or out from negative people’s crowd like workmates, friends, family etc… than you should focus on whatever you want and not what you don’t want. That is the main difference. Your probable future goes wherever your thought energy is given, keep it in mind, test it, play with it.

It takes time I admit (a real pain in the butt), I had a mentally and emotionally toxic job experience too not so long ago, which went on months until I made (with some friendly help) make myself KNOW and believe that nobody could keep me there and I can go away. I just hated it and it went against my own rules about making a passive income somehow, but family issues went against my plans “again”. My collagues were always in misery, blaming, complaining – forgetting that they chose their job, not me and they also accepted the rules. This is a classical sign of working people and the number of people who are actually ok with their jobs is much less, like 1 out of 20. You don’t need to suffer in your life because this. Maybe it was a bad decision, but the world is always giving you better opportunities. By the way who the hack needs all of this?

Start in Yourself, deep inside first!

For first, just close your eyes, and close out any distractions (called meditation) and try to observe your thoughts. You may realise that your thoughts are based on fear and suffering from situations on which you don’t have any influence and can’t do anything. If you don’t have influence on people or similars, STOP giving thought energy on them. I know this issue too sure from various aspects of my life.

If you found your problems deep inside, you will have the solution soon. You must get away far from negative aspects of your life, rather convert them into positive feelings and formulate a little plan to solve the problem. This is not escapism, this is changing your life for better! Depression is a signpost for an underlying problem mentally.

If it is work, there will be other opportunities, trust yourself.
Changing work life to independency is also a process, it takes time and effort to step from one into another smoothly.
If it is relationship, they are toxic and not serving the original purpose for both sides anymore, stop fueling them. You hurt yourself!
If it is family, well it could be harder because of the stronger relationship – stop fueling them either. We can’t make people change, don’t try it! Get away after you made sure yourself, you tried your best. An action plan is needed only for quit.

Remember back whenever you felt yourself well, in joy. Search back of those feelings and what caused them. You must learn to enjoy yourself on your own, not depending on other people. This is not egoism, this is being your true being and giving out your joy, making people better around you, better in looking with their heart.
You should learn to not depend on other’s love and kindness. You can give it too! Practice with it.

Trust yourself, stay in balance and don’t let other’s to influence you ever. They are just regular people, they will pull in their types.
You are here to live your life in joy, not in self-destruction!

Is Sugar bad or good for Your health?

This is an interesting topic and worldwide, full of misconceptions, beliefs and groups, who try to sell other products which are switching you from sugar to much worse like artificial sweateners.
Whole food industry is a religion too and vegetarianism both, with other ones. But no arguement here, it is your choices and if you feel good it is ok, but later after years you may have defficiency problems. You don’t need to follow groups, just your body and lifestyle.

I’m a perfect example here. I’m almost 31 years old, tall, lean but muscular type man in genetics. I’m eating sugary stuffs since my early childhood and never ever had a serious problem with it, if I take into consideration that I should eat it in not massive amounts (lol well many times it is hard to not do it, I admit).
My brain and metabolism using it up as fast as it can, so no real big problems. It is sometimes bad if I make wrong choices and grabbing it too often from the shop’s selves, but maybe I have just some little issue about it like a little brain fog, that’s all, I can accept it. It is up to me to change my diet to a degree that I eat more protein and not more sugar. I don’t take it seriously.
Choices are up to you, what to eat.

What other’s are telling you what is good for you – totally wrong!

Never try to follow other people’s meal plans and diet, but you need to experiment with the food combinations and what is good for your body. Certain people can’t digest certain types of foods. But you can try out what is better for you. Those advices are just for try some aspects and if it works, use it.

If you crave on sugar and being lazy like me, chances are you don’t take in enough protein for your energy levels, muscles to stay strong and for your brain being in balance and not in tiredness. You can consume sugar and eat it in balance with other stuffs. I won’t say you, DON’T eat sugar, it is not fair. You can eat it, but in moderation. Our body is very adaptable, can handle it. But by the time you will lose minerals like Vitamine B’s, Magnesium, Calcium, Vitamine C and some more. You should eat wisely and considering your body’s lifestyle. Fat is the leasts needed one, we are not in the wild, hunting for prey and storing up fat in our body to survive winters.
Useful fats are needed like butter, Olive Oil, Cononut Oil and similars. Don’t cling on Omega 3. You need a good ratio of Omega 6 : Omega 3 = 2:1 or 3:1 and that’s all. Nobody tells you this ratio, mainstream only hungs up on Omega 3. And don’t take it seriously like measuring it daily for your intake, just don’t do it. Just eat it if you want to.

The importance of water

I found out that if I try to drink more water while I’m eating chocolates (some swallows), it can cause a little delay on releasing sugar into my blood vessels. It is a personal observation but it can help you.
Water is very important, pure water. Now I don’t recommend anything other than some mineral spring water, which doesn’t contain fluoride and chloride, but have magnesium, a little calcium and potassium for your muscles, brain, bones etc. You can still use tap water for washing your teeth or rinse a few times, wash hands but it is unsafe, and full of chemicals, byproducts from washing it back like hormones. I guess we can count up almost every countries for unsafe tap water.

There is a myth, people in my world used to say it to me too, that you should rotate your brands of mineral water because of some strange build-up theory of minerals… comeon! This is just BS again. I know my body uses up what I take in, you can’t overload them, until you are making personal powder or capsule intakes more often and too much for months. If you consumes sugary stuffs, you can be sure, some minerals are less than normal, don’t worry. Otherwise, rather protein intake is low.

How to use up sugar?

Exercise almost daily is needed to maintain balance in your muscles and blood flow to various parts of your body, especially to your brain. I know I’m lazy like hell, but I can take a run for some kilometers nearby, or just ride my bike, take dumbbell exercises at home, whenever it is needed.
It is better use up plant sugar (fruits) or just sugary stuffs after workout or jogging. You muscles are weak, use it with protein to regain damaged muscles tissues and store glycogen in it. Eat vegetables with protein.
Daytime? Use sugar rather at the middle of the day. In the mornings you need protein after sleep, and sugar is the less wanted thing before bedtime, it will accumulate as fat and your brain may have a bad bedtime over night without restfull sleep.

Sugar also releases happiness “hormone”. It causes you to feel good after ate some bars. But you can feel yourself weak and hungry if you don’t eat nothing else.

You can mix it with protein once again and try to maintain a balanced diet. You can eat crap too like fast food, but in minimal amounts. Those chemicals are stored in your body and need some time to clean out. Vitamine C is a good thing to use, it cleans you out used with minerals or with protein. I may post another blog about using Vitamine C in a perfect doesage. But never mix sugar with Vitamine C, you don’t want kidney problems, or may not but it is just stupid.

Sugar is bad if…

Well if you are only eating sugar. Or if you THINK it is bad and you fueled this thought for a long time. If you have certain health issues like diabetes, I have a story here, to see it is caused by yourself (mostly!). I knew a man who has it, BUT he can eat sugar, chocolate! I made him believe (ok, tried to liberate his mind) he has no problems and can consume it in little amounts of course, but his problem is caused by himself. He thinks he doesn’t worth his life, he had bad relationships with women, he is just torturing himself directly and he also knows it, and doesn’t want to change his mindset. A certain view of his reality in this life causes the trouble. Well that is his life, if he wish it, it can be reality.
Old people can have diabetes too, full of life problems mentally and beliefs from decades, now imagine how hard to cure them… They can only rely on specialists like “doctors” and can’t help themselves – well why should they if they are as brainwashed and as “intelligent” as their parents from the last century. They BELIEVE in external help. To support elderly, there are highly intelligent people too, I don’t want to label them, I know some personally too.

Don’t listen to others! WHO knows what is good for you? Only you know that. If you don’t know, you should closely observe your thoughts about certain things in your life, how do you feel about them. Change that belief and experiment with it.

Finally, don’t be afraid of sugar, it is spreaded widely how it is bad or your body is in trouble from it. Use it in balance with real foods and don’t overconsume it. That’s all.
If you think you can’t eat sugar, because it is harmful, now that is a belief construct, which you gave power and became your reality. You can reverse it!
Sugar is needed by our brain, simple sugars, but any of them can help it.
If you decline sugar in your life – meaning the sweatness (not just this kind of), like watching a movie, it will cause to decline everything which the mainstrain brainwashing tells you. You are the only one, who feels what do your body need. And if you feel yourself well from it, that is the best!

Eat more protein, less fat and less sugar, but don’t just decline them. Your lifestyle also needs it if you are more active in body, but if you don’t eat more protein than those, your body will degrade much fast, your muscles will weaken, lose muscle mass and your body and brain will suffer.

Sugar doesn’t cause cancer, You are causing it. Not genetics, not sugar. But it can fuel damaged cells and help it. Nothing complicated.
It is like going to the doctor to take a pill for certain problems. You can’t heal yourself, forgot it, this way you are going for external help and giving belief to a pill that it will finally heal your problems. Many times it can’t, your belief is weak again. Surprise : ) But sometimes our beliefs are weak and need that pill, well it is an interesting self-programming game.